Hanging by a thread, in a very uncertain state, unlikely to survive or succeed is how the Collins dictionary defines ‘FILIPENDULOUS’. It’s how I felt when the Neurologist told me I may have ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis) or Motor Neuron Disease (MND) as they name it in the UK. That was December 2016. A significant number of tests and a cycle of IVIG followed and finally the diagnosis was confirmed in March 2017, my thread started to unravel! Life as I knew it would never be the same again.
I decided to name the blog Filipendulous not because it described my uncertain state or the fact that I was unlikely to survive, both of those are given, but because it reminded me of a spider’s thread. By density and weight the silk thread is stronger than both steel and kevlar. Could my will, determination and resilience be combined to create a dragline able to absorb the daily assault of ALS on my physical being? I know with certainty that the physical will continue to be battered, how well this dragline suspends the soul in uncertainty is what will be tested. I am therefore hoping that Filipendulous is able to document the characteristics of this dragline tethering my soul and that you will be able to share and support this process.
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Antoinette Van Wyk
I love you with all my being
Anthony Saccon
Ciao Antoinette. Please add also all our love for Peter, you and Tallulah. A big hug Anthony&Arianna
Lydia Smith
I can only support your strength and will power.
Debbie Teles
The bravest, kindest, wisest soul we know! We are blessed to have had the privilege to spend this time with you!
Adele
We admire your strenght Peter, and that of your wife and daughter. You are in our daily thoughts!
Judithiris
I have watched you over the past 46 years grow into an exceptionally talented young man, who l am very proud to call my nephew. Your strength and determination will be an inspiration to all who know you and to all who will read your blog keep writing Peter x
Old Goose
I have such a lot I can write about you Peter but I will control my emotions, just for you 😍 I will keep them for my next email to my friend 🙃
You are my super hero, my inspiration, my son and words cannot express how much I love you. This blog will help me walk this journey with you.
I salute you Mr Peter, Antoinette and Tallulah. XXXX
Kat amos
You, my brother, are SPLENDIFEROUS.
I have always looked up to you, the kindest,down to earth,humble,loving,caring, funny, good looking and most intriguing walking dictionary I know.
I am so proud of you, so inspired by your grit and determination.
I love you with all my heart and soul. #❤️ YOU
Andre
Filipendulous is a new one I’ve never heard before, but what I do know is that you are are flipping fabulous and we’re here with you, all the way!!! The blog is a brilliant way for us to stay close being so far!! Love you boet!!!! More than you know !!!
Trisa Hugo
All the best. Beautifully written.
Pieter
“Fiipendulous” What a word!!!
At first I thought you were playing with words making light of the situation that touched our hearts since your diagnosis!
It is a word that has been wisely chosen with such a profound meaning..Then you bring your wisdom to it and make it even more profound…
Is this dad proud of you and all that you have become???? you bet I am!!! With your most amazing wife and child by your side the three of you have truly become a model family and a true representation of how to make use of the strengths of each other to make it through both happy and trying times!!
That is what I would call a functional family and a great one at that!!
Thank you for the examples that you have set throughout your life my son…The exemplary behaviour that I always admired from a distance with an inner smile giving thanks for the wonderful being that you are..
I can write books and books about your achievements and the son whom I so dearly love…that as you know ,,will go on forever!!!
I want to leave you with this my son…..
That dragline that your soul and others will tether off from..may stretch and sag a little….Your wonderful wife and daughter including all of us friends and family and even strangers will help to provide the sustenance (support)to keep your “Dragline” taut so that your soul may tether off it for as long as you wish..
Remember this!!
When it seems there are no clouds about and no promise of rain…just make sure that your ditches have been dug!!! A cloud Will come…. and then your ditches will be filled my son…
Thanks to you for creating this blog where we can all share our feelings… Salutations to you Antoinette and Tallulah…Love you dearly!!!
David
Little peter
Pity we live opposite end of the world be strong cousin
Lots of love
Little David
Quirine
Touched by this beautifully written message. It was really great meeting you this summer. My thoughts are often with you. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Baie liefde vir jou ook Antoinette xx
Lisa
Beautiful words Peter. I have such huge admiration for you and feel privileged to be able to share your journey.
Michele Dabaghian
Very few people have this ability to make you feel serene despite the turmoils of life. You do. I met you 10 years ago and words can’t describe the respect that I have for who you are. A rock. A kind heart and a beautiful old soul, filled with compassion and care. Here is to your courage. To your indescribable resilience, to all the sparkle that you spread around you, by simply being who you are. To your gorgeous family and the dignity of your battle.
I send you love. and hope. and light. And my endless friendship. Today. Tomorrow. Forever.